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Good chemistry is a huge part of being compatible with someone, but can you build it over text? Absolutely! Texting offers so many ways to get to know someone and flirt. If you're crushing on a girl and want to up the tension, all you have to do is take an interest in her and lay on the charm. Luckily, this article has plenty of tips to help you do both.

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    This will catch her interest more than "Hey" or "What's up?" Add specific details about your plans that day or what you're up to at that moment. It will increase your chances of getting a reply and help you establish a fun rapport in the beginning of your text conversation.[1]

    • Instead of saying "Good morning," text, "I just made the best breakfast of my life. Also, good morning 🙂"
    • You might also try, "I had the strangest interaction with a customer at work today" or "You're never gonna guess what I just saw on my walk..." Both include details that will intrigue her and encourage her to reply.

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    This makes your texts seem more flirtatious and personal to her. Everyone, including cute girls, loves the sound (and sight) of their own name. Every now and then, address her by name in your texts. She'll automatically feel like the two of you are a little closer and more comfortable with each other, which is necessary to strengthen your chemistry.[2]

    • You might say, "Hey there, Jenni. What are you up to this fine evening?"
    • Avoid overdoing this. Using her name in every text won't feel natural. Instead, try addressing her by name once per conversation.

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    This helps you take things in a more romantically charged direction. Think about what you like about her and be specific. You might like her bold fashion sense, her witty sense of humor, or her cute freckles. Receiving compliments that seem unique to her will make her feel special. You'll make her blush and she'll want to get closer to such an observant, charming person like yourself.[3]

    • Say something like, "You've got the prettiest eyes" or "You look wonderful in that picture. Was that at the pumpkin patch?"
    • If you're comfortable, tell her what makes you so attracted to her. You might text, "You're really gorgeous. You know that don't you?" or "You're pretty foxy. I haven't been able to stop thinking about you."

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    This is another way to get a little more flirty. Teasing a girl can be a fun way to get her attention. Just make sure you tease her about something harmless, like her cute laugh or her over-the-top love of Harry Styles. She'll enjoy the attention and will tease you right back, which will create a fun back and forth between the two of you.[4]

    • Say something like, "What do I have to do to get you to like me as much as you like makeup tutorials on YouTube..." or "I watched the movie you recommended and now I think I'm a superfan. What have you done to me?!"
    • Avoid teasing her about things that might feel a little more personal, like her looks or her intelligence. Focus on having fun and being flirty.

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    Playful banter can really up the chemistry. All you need to start an inside joke with someone is a shared interest or experience together. That might look like making fun of a reality TV show that you both love to hate or exchanging funny memes. Joking back and forth like this will establish a stronger connection between the two of you.[5]

    • Maybe you both like watching cooking videos on YouTube. Send her a funny text like, "I just tried the recipe from that YouTube video you showed me. First question: what made you think I could handle this challenge!?"
    • Perhaps you both think SpongeBob SquarePants memes are hilarious. Text her a funny one with a caption like, "I've found it. The best SpongeBob meme. Unless you've got a better one..."

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    Part of building chemistry is getting to know someone better. Show her that you'd like to know more about her by taking an interest in what she likes to do. You might try asking questions about her hobbies and goals or bringing up an interest of hers in conversation. She'll be flattered that you want to get to know her more and she'll likely try to get closer to you in response.[6]

    • Text her something like, "I saw that sick mountain view you just posted on Instagram! Can you tell me your favorite hiking spot or is that a secret?"
    • Alternatively, follow up on something that she mentioned in an earlier conversation. Try, "After you mentioned that album I went ahead and checked it out. It was awesome. Thanks for the recommendation!"
    • Be open about your passions, too, so that she can get to know you better. You'll get closer by talking about both of your interests.

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    Opt for 1-2 per conversation so that they feel special. Emojis are a fantastic way to make a flirty text even flirtier (😉, for example). Next time you're texting back and forth, try adding a flirtatious emoji to up the romantic tension. She'll know exactly what it means and will probably respond with a flirty text of her own.[7]

    • Flirty emojis you might try include 😈, 👀, and 😏.
    • Just remember to use them sparingly (1-2 per conversation). Overdoing it might make you look too eager, which could turn her off.

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    Include some innuendo in your messages to turn up the heat. Just make sure you match her comfort level and don't go too far (now is not the time to send an unsolicited picture). To gauge her interest, start out with a subtle reference or remark. If she's into it, she'll respond with some suggestive texts of her own.[8]

    • You could try, "I really liked that picture you posted. Bike shorts suit you" or "I can't get you off my mind. Wish I was with you now..."
    • You might also try texting her later in the evening (anytime after 5:00 pm). She'll likely be off work and open to getting a little flirtier.
    • If she responds with a cordial text without any suggestive details, don't fret. Texting like this just might not be her thing. Hold off on any more suggestive texts and focus on getting to know each other better.

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    An unfortunate typo can kill the sparks. Sometimes they can't be avoided, but if you send a bunch in a row, your crush may struggle to take you seriously. Think of your texts like well-crafted love letters of the 21st century and read them over before you hit send. She'll be impressed by your way with words and will want to keep on texting.

    • Everyone misses the occasional typo (thank you, AutoCorrect). If you send a text and realize that you misspelled something, don't sweat it. Just try to avoid them as best you can.

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    This leaves her wanting more out of your texts. Sending her super long texts or double texting frequently shows her that you're always available to her, which might turn her off. Try sending messages that give her only the information she needs to know, with no extra filler. It will help you establish the push and pull dynamic that will strengthen your chemistry, and she'll be super intrigued by your air of mystery.[9]

    • Let's say you're out with friends. Instead of giving her the night's full itinerary, say something like, "I'm hanging with some old buddies. It's been a great night." This will leave her curious about what you're doing.
    • Maybe she just asked you what you're up to. Instead of sending her a super longwinded text about the basketball game you're watching, keep it brief. Text her, "Oh you know, just yelling at my TV about sports. Usual Saturday."

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    Leave the conversation on a high note to make her want you more. Part of building chemistry is the push and pull of attraction.[10] Even if you want to text all day, every day, leave her wanting more to establish this dynamic. After you've been texting for a few hours, tell her that you've got to go. Don't forget to let her know that you're looking forward to talking again soon. Since the conversation was going well, she'll miss you and be excited to talk again.

    • Say something like, "I've gotta go, but keep me posted on that art project you're working on!" or "I've got to head out for the night, but it was so fun catching up. Talk to you tomorrow 🙂"
    • If you keep a text conversation going for too long, it might get a little boring. This can make the sparks you were feeling earlier start to fizzle out.

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    Chemistry can only go so far over text. To take things to the next level, ask your crush out on a date. Rather than simply asking if she wants to go out sometime, include concrete plans in your ask. This helps you come across as more confident and direct, which helps boost the tension between the two of you. She'll be into the fact that you took action and planned something.[11]

    • You might say, "There's a 7:30 pm showing of Dune this Friday. Want to go together?" or "What are you up to on Saturday night? If you're free I can make us a reservation at this cool new restaurant."

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    This heightens the anticipation between the two of you. After you ask her out, send a follow-up text a day before your date to show that you're excited to see her. It'll give you a chance to bond over how much you want to hang out with each other, which is a surefire way to increase the tension.[12]

    • Text her, "Can't wait to check out that restaurant tomorrow. Pretty excited to see you, too" or "Looking forward to seeing that movie with you. So glad we'll have each other if it gets too scary 😉"

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